There is no life without unwritten rules that are learned along the way. Some are influenced by family practices, some by social influences, and others by personal experience, which silently become expectations. In the long run, these rules might begin to weigh one down when they might have been useful. Releasing is not giving up and losing control. This may merely mean creating room to relax, ask questions, and take little breaks to relax. Happiness might appear to be different to each person, and with time, it can also change. This paper discusses some of the typical rules that individuals may have in their possession without realizing it. The release may not solve it all, but at least it could open the door softly to sunshine and lighter days, calm thinking, and all may be more flexible in the way of going about daily living.
Controlling every outcome
It is not always useful to plan things, yet life tends to have its twists. The grip of control can lead to more stress. Some flexibility would leave opportunities to have surprises and to learn and kinder responses in case things do not go as planned.
Comparing your timeline
Choosing a direction and making any progress against others is very simple when the direction appears unclogged on the surface. There are invisible stops and eras in all journeys. The release of the comparison could be intended to make the development feel more intimate and less hectic.
Holding onto old mistakes
Old mistakes can live in the memory longer than they should. Reflection is good, but it may not bring growth when it is always replayed. Self-judging may reduce over time by letting the mistakes be turned into lessons rather than labels.
Saying yes automatically
It might be fine to agree fast or say yes. But yeses all the time can bring little space to oneself. Taking breaks prior to a decision may make decisions seem more balanced and in line with available energy.
Believing rest is lazy
Guilt is sometimes unjustifiable. Breaks may facilitate attention, precision, and general balance. Relaxation without any reason can make everyday life less strained and manageable.
Escaping sufferings
It is difficult to recognize perfect moments. Being on the waiting list might result in stagnation. It may help to start working when everything is good enough, and something unexpected may happen.
Assuming thoughts are facts
Ideas may be persuasive, particularly the ones one repeats. Nevertheless, they can be mood and not truth. A gentle interrogation of them may provide room for other points of view and more relaxed responses.
Defining yourself by past roles
The development of people takes place in stages. Grabbing onto ancient identities can restrict development. Allowing room to change might make life seem open and versatile.
Expecting closure from others
The act of closing down usually appears as an externality. At times, it can be internal, via acceptance or understanding. By abandoning this expectation, one may lessen the frustration.
